Understanding Motivation, Debunking the Motivation Myth

Motivation comes from the word 'move' and means 'to move'. Motivation literally means; that which moves a person to a course of action. Motivation indicates a movement that is initiated by a reason or purpose. This is an important point to understand; having a reason and purpose will activate motivation. For example, it is hard to move towards something if you can't see any reason or purpose. In other words you need a motif or good reason as to why you would put in the effort and to create some momentum and move from where you currently are. If you are keen to do something you are more likely to be motivated; you don't have to try, you will just want do it. Remember also that you might have a reason and purpose to NOT be motivated; in that case you won't to 'move'.

Move away or towards?

At the core we humans are very simple creatures. We either move away from something or towards something courtesy of the brain. The brain is designed to move towards reward or pleasure and move away from pain. Like any other living creature we move away from pain and towards pleasure (survival). In order to be motivated (to move) you need to have a good reason; either a reward or benefit, or a move away from discomfort, dislike or danger.

To be or not to be motivated … that is the question

There are many questions about personal motivation – or lack of it – as well as motivation in others. People often wonder why they themselves or someone else is not motivated.

Managers often ask the question 'How can I motivate my team?' The problem is they look for a simple solution like a team building day, expecting it to work like magic. They think that somehow by waving a magic wand they will become motivated. Even if you get the world's most respected motivational speaker, it's unlikely to achieve anything more than a short term high. It generally does not result in the team being more motivated to work together. Why … because if there is not a clear reason, a motif for the individuals in that team, nothing much will move them. The same goes for personal motivation. Many people go searching for the magic motivation formula instead of just being clear about their purpose or reason.

WIIFM (What's In It For Me?)

We generally are only motivated if the most fundamental questions are addressed: What is the point? Why should I be doing this? What's in it for me? Why is this relevant to me?

In order to be motivated there needs to be something in it for you. Even if you are motivated to help others, it makes you feel good; It gives you satisfaction, a purpose. You need to create and have a good reason to put in continuous effort. Why else would you put in the effort and generally give up doing something else that you might otherwise enjoy?

Did you ever wonder why you had to do certain subjects at school that did not particularly interest you? The answer probably was 'because it is part of the curriculum'. Did this motivate and inspire you to do well? While you probably complied – as not doing so probably had negative consequences – you certainly did not undertake the task feeling motivated, eager and excited.

But I am trying

How well does it work when you feel you 'should' give up smoking, 'should' lose weight, 'should' drink less or 'should' exercise more, when you don't really want to? Have you ever met someone who has been trying to give up smoking? Answer one question: Do they or don't they smoke? The problem is with the implication of the word trying .

The word trying says you are not really motivated or committed but you are attempting something, having a go. Only when you see a compelling reason and decide to do something will you be motivated enough to change your habits and achieve what it is you want to achieve. Without a decision and a compelling reason you can try as hard as you like, but you are unlikely to succeed. No amount of teambuilding, motivational speakers or programs can do this for you. No rewards will help you to become motivated beyond compliance if you don't personally see a motif or a good reason why.

The more motifs, the more motivation

As a general rule, the more reasons you have to do something – the more benefits there are for you – the more motivated you are likely to be. No matter how many reasons other people might give you or how much they try to persuade or influence you, until it resonates with what is important to you, in other words with what you value, you just cannot and will not be motivated.

You can take a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. Ultimately no-one else can motivate you other than you. The more your activities and goals are aligned with what you value, the more motivated you will be. You are unlikely to be motivated by what you 'should' do rather then what you would love to do. Of course we are also motivated by what I call 'secondary motivation.'

Secondary motivation is being motivated to do something because if you don't it will have negative consequences.

If you don't lose weight and look after your body you might get sick, if you don't do your tax return, pay your mortgage, earn money etc. there will be costs, discomfort … in other words pain.

The more compelling reasons you can find to do something, the more motivated you will be and the easier things will become. If there is a lack of motivation it is because there is no clear primary or secondary benefit. When you are not motivated in areas of your life that are important to you, examine the 'pay off', the reason or benefit of staying stuck. By the way, you can't make the horse drink but you can make it very thirsty!

Am I being lazy?

Many people confuse lack of motivation with being lazy. Ultimately there is no such thing as being lazy. But there certainly can be an absence of motivation due to a lack of motive.

If you want test this theory ask a teenager to tidy up their room and see their response. You might have (wrongly) judged the absence of enthusiasm as being lazy. Now ask the teenager to leave the room. Hide money in their room in different places and invite them to find as much as they can within two minutes. What do you think might happen to the 'lazy' teenager? You got it … MOTIVATION!

Get up, get out and make it happen …. or not

Motivation is what will make things happen. It is what helps you get out of that chair, stop putting toxins into your body and move towards what you really want in life. So from now on don't waste your time by calling yourself lazy or making half hearted attempts by 'trying'. Instead spend time uncovering your motivation. You will find that there are certain things that motivate you and other things that don't. No one can tell you what should or should not motivate you. Different people are motivated by different things.

If you feel motivated to keep overeating, smoking, drinking etc. that's okay. You know the consequences and if you chose to accept them, then that is entirely your choice. So make it! The important thing is don't kid yourself. The fact is you are motivated and committed to these things otherwise you would not be doing it. So if you want to overeat, smoke, drink, stay sitting in your chair watching lots of TV, then don't waste your time trying to give up or by making excuses. Stop boring yourself and others with the word 'should' or 'I should give up'. Either give up or don't! The choice is yours. But before you decide ask yourself these questions:

  • Is this really what I want to do?
  • Why am I doing what I am doing? What is my real motif, reason or purpose? Am I sure?
  • How does this serve me now and in the future?
  • Does what I do really align with my values ​​or is it merely a lack of impulse control?

The motivation myth

We now know that motivation is the key to getting things done; for achieving goals and desires. We also know that aligning our motif with our values ​​is important.

People often say: 'I know it is important to me but I am just not that motivated'. These people rarely start or change anything because they are waiting to be motivated first. They somehow think that the only way they can move towards something (or away from something) is to be motivated. Wrong! They somehow expect that motivation will appear out of thin air and this will magically hurdle them into action towards their goal. Don't sit around waiting for motivation to magically appear … it doesn't and it won't! The motivation bus will never arrive no matter how long you wait for it.

What follows is a most important statement.

DON'T wait to feel, or to get, motivated

If what you want to achieve is important to you and you don't feel motivated, just do it anyway without feeling motivated! Make the decision to do it. Yes this might take an act of will, discipline and determination. Yes it might be unpleasant, require a commitment and you might even have to give up something else. Yet you do it because you know the end result, your goal and that is more important than whether you feel motivated or not. The problem is that most people focus on what they have to give up rather than focussing on the long term gain.

Do you really think elite swimmers look forward to getting up every morning at 4:30 am day after day? Rather than begrudging their early morning starts, they are completely focused on the end result; their goal. That is what keeps them going, that is what motivates them.

What is important to you?

When you want to achieve something that is important to you, just start the ball rolling. Start pushing that motivation ball until it creates its own momentum … and it will, and then it might even be hard to stop. As the famous Nike motto says 'Just Do It!' Or as the famous quote attributed to Johann Wolfgang von Goethe says: 'Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it '.

Just like starting to exercise again after you haven't for a while or perhaps never. It is highly unlikely that you will jump out of bed one morning full of motivation and start exercising. You might not feel like it, but because you know it is important, you will feel better and healthier in the long term, you get going even though you don't want to. At first it is a real effort and you might have to fight that little voice in your head that will offer you all kinds of good reasons and temptations not to do it.

Here is an important fact. The more you do it, the more motivated you will become! The more the ball gets pushed, the more the ball will create its own momentum. It's just like pushing a rock up hill. When you push a rock up on one side of a hill, it gets harder and harder the closer you get to the top.

** Important note: Most people give up just before the critical moment of breakthrough. But when you push that rock over the edge it creates its own momentum and it will roll down faster and faster as it builds up more momentum.

So remember. You won't always be motivated to do the things that are important to you. Don't wait for motivation to come along. Make a decision to do it anyway and start creating momentum. Soon you will find that the momentum will continue all on its own and it might even pull you along with it.

Why is it so difficult to maintain the momentum?

Now you might say 'But I have tried to do things differently may times but I have not succeeded'. There is a really good reason for this and guess what it's not your fault. It all has to do with your brain. There are three major reasons.

The latest research in neuroscience tells us that when you want to make changes in your life the brain will not necessarily be on your side and might actually hinder you in achieving what you want. Let's explore this further:

1. Don't take it personally

Many people resist change. Even when people lives are threatened, through smoking, excessive alcohol consumption, poor eating habits etc., changing the habit often seems near impossible. Have you ever wondered why so few weight loss programs work? Here is the answer. It all has to do with habits and conditioning.

Neuroscience has found that the part of the brain that deals with habits and what is familiar requires little energy. When something is a habit or routine it does not require much attention and you do things automatically. Because of this no matter how damaging it is to you, your behavior or habit is familiar and therefore feels normal and 'comfortable'. You don't have to think about lighting up that cigarette or putting junk food in your mouth, it just comes naturally to you.

This automatic response frees up the more conscious or thinking part of the brain to deal with more complex tasks such as processing new information. This part of the brain, the prefrontal cortex or the executive part of the brain, is not as energy efficient and requires more energy.

Just think about driving your car. You no longer have to consciously think about driving it, do you? Most of it is automatic until you are confronted with an unusual situation. Now imagine driving your car in another country where they drive on the other side of the road. Do you think your driving would be less automatic? Probably yes. You now have to consciously think about what you are doing and you feel uncomfortable and less confident. Until you get use to it, you would rather go back to driving on the other side of the road because that is what you are used to.

Before you get use to this new way of driving it feels strange and even wrong to you and you might even wonder why these people drive on 'the wrong' side of the road. Something might appear wrong because it is not what you are used to. It requires more focus, energy and effort from you. Given half a chance you would probably like to revert back to what is comfortable and familiar. It takes the brain some time to get use to a new situation … but before it does something else happens. It's essential that you know this if you want to make important and lasting changes in your life.

2. The brain resists change

Your brain actually resists the change; not because it is trying to make things hard for you, but it does so for a very good reason. Your brain's basic function is to keep you safe. Its main interest is your survival.

In order to keep you safe your brain is designed to be alert and detect if there is something different in your environment; something unusual or unfamiliar. If there is something out of the ordinary it could mean there is a threat to you. The limbic part of the brain – where our emotions and fight / flight system (the amygdala) resides, has a very fast, effective and efficient reference library. It will constantly and instantly compare all incoming information to see if it matches. Of course you are not consciously aware of this as it runs 'in the background'. The limbic part of the brain will determine if what is happening is different from your experience, expectations and assumptions. When it detects a mismatch – just like an error code – it will activate the alarm center (the amygdale) in the brain. Your brain will send a powerful and urgent message that there is something amiss.

When the alarm is sounded the fear circuitry, the primitive part of your brain, gets triggered and you become unsettled or worse, you become stressed and anxious. This is what is supposed to happen as without this you would not survive.

When the error message shows up your 'animal' instincts take over and the most primitive and instinctual part of your brain gets activated and you become fully alert and ready to fight or run away. When the amygdale, gets activated you tend to become more emotional, act impulsively and it's difficult to think logically. Your capacity for higher thought (reason) immediately decreases. Rather than you consciously overriding the error message you tend to automatically retreat to what is familiar. Just like any primitive creature you retreat to your familiar habitat, your 'home' or default position.

Are you getting the picture? Change leads to an error message; feeling unsafe, wanting to retreat to safety or to what is familiar, which is … you guessed it, whatever you are used to doing; Whether it is food, cigarettes, alcohol or any other habit you may have.

So comparing information and alerting us to a mismatch is great for survival but not so good when it comes to making positive changes in our life. As far as the brain is concerned, change is a pain in the ….. brain!

3. Focusing on the loss and not the gain

Another reason that change is so difficult is because of the way we drive our brain. There is a technique that racing car drivers use; Don't look were you don't want to go. In other words look where you do want to go. As I mentioned, most people fail to make changes in their life because they focus on what they are giving up rather than on what they are gaining. For example, they look longingly at that cigarette they have just given up. When the brain perceives a loss it interprets it as giving up part of its security. 'You want to give up something that is familiar? Not if I have my way! I am here to protect you. You want to give up the familiar neuro pathway and create a different one? No thanks, I'd rather we stick to well trodden and familiar ones' says the brain.

When you focus on the loss rather than the gain it is hard for the brain to get excited and support you. Giving up something trusted and familiar is not the way to do it. Your brain needs a better and more compelling reason in order to start making changes.

What you need to do to make positive and lasting changes in your life?

Get your brain on board and get it to support you. And here is how you can do it:

  1. Align what you are moving towards (what you want) as much as possible to what you value (what is important to you). This is a very important motivator.
  2. Remember if the brain's error code and therefore its alarm system get activated by making a change, this does not mean the change is wrong or you are in danger.
  3. Recognize that the brain's protective mechanism is reactive, impulse based and prone to overreaction.
  4. Override the rather primitive alarm system with reasoning and logic and understand that it is mostly a false alarm.
  5. Understand that the data processing system, the limbic part of the brain, is very fast, automatic and very fuel efficient and the logical and reasoning part of the brain, the prefrontal cortex is much slower and very fuel consuming. This part of the brain rather than being automatic needs to be activated deliberately and consciously.
  6. Accept that it takes the brain time to get use to a new situation.
  7. Be aware the error code will keep popping up for a while until a new neuro pathway is established and the new behavior becomes a habit.
  8. Realize that it takes between 30-60 days for a new behavior or habit to become engrained and automatic. Remember also that withdrawal is a necessary part – and positive symptom – of the change process.
  9. Remember that if you regress during that time you often have to start from the beginning. That is where discipline and determination come in.
  10. Understand that when under stress you need to be extra vigilant so you don't regress to old and ineffective behavior or habits. For example people will often revert back to smoking, drinking or over eating during times of stress, hence the saying; during stress we often regress.
  11. Focus on the gain not the pain. Focus and get excited about reaching your goal, the end result and the solution rather than the loss of what you are giving up. For example, replace 'I have to give up cigarettes' with something like: 'I am looking after my health and everyday my health is improving'.
  12. Visualize what you want to change or achieve and imagine that you have already achieved your goal. See the end in mind and get excited about how it feels to have already achieved your goal. Studies have found that your brain will already start to create new neuro pathways just by visualizing and feeling excited about what you want.
  13. Be aware that the unconscious part of the brain does not know the difference between what is real and what is imagined. Imagination works. (Think about drinking a glass of vinegar or hearing the sound of someone scratching a blackboard with their nails).
  14. Understand that you are in charge of your brain and therefore your thinking. Let it serve you not the other way around.
  15. Mind your mind. In other words be aware of what you think about. Just as with your body, don't pollute your brain with rubbish and junk thoughts or thoughts that don't serve you.
  16. Understand the power of language. You command your brain by the words you use. Your brain will accepts and believe what you tell it. So be careful what you say to yourself. Thoughts like: I can't do it, I am lazy, I am not clever, I have no will power, I can't stick to things etc. instruct your brain to produce that result.
  17. Tell your brain what you want rather than what you don't want and use positive language in the present tense. I am successful, rather than I am not going to fail. I am wealthy, rather than I want to be free of debt. I am a non-smoker rather than I am trying to give up smoking.
  18. Know that your brain can't reverse. Try not to think of a pink elephant. See!
  19. Be very specific about what you would like to change and develop an action plan.
  20. Be solution orientated, remember that solutions are uplifting and problems will weigh you down.
  21. Step up! Learn to become more resilient, be your own best ally and supporter.
  22. Accept your humanness and don't beat yourself up, it is bad for your brain!
  23. Remain focused and committed. It is easy to give up and unfortunately most people do.
  24. Create a vision board (a collage of inspiring pictures, images and affirmations that represent what you want).
  25. Know that the brain takes itself very seriously. Make sure you lighten it up by having lots of laughs.
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Secrets of Motivation

If you want to experience how motivated athletes are with the deck of physical athletic cards stacked against them, then attend a Special Olympics Championship. The athletes participate because they can, want to, and excel in multitude of different sports.

Ask any competitor, “Who won?”

They’ll respond, “We won.”

“Who had their best time?”

“We did.”

“Who’s going to win next time?”

“We will.”

Your rational mind’s inclination is to correct them and tell them otherwise but you would be wrong.

Every athlete at any Special Olympics event not only think they won, they know they won.

And they’re all right. They won qualifying to get there. Everyone wins in the experience because the Special Olympics organization, volunteers, and donors gave them the opportunity. Athletes arrived brave enough to run on the field, jump in the water, or balance on a beam. They competed with confidence, competence, and concentration to do their best among a few hundred of the best athletes in the state. They displayed class and sportsmanship beyond perceived normal comprehension of what is accepted and even encouraged on a professional big league field, court, or track where championships are broadcasted all over the globe.

The perfect sporting event occurred when the best, bravest and most positive attitude athletes at a Special Olympics Championship competed. Realize there are similarities between the Olympics and Special Olympics. Competitors arrive amped up, with extra equipment, and more coaches and team managers than weekend warriors. The differences are the Special Olympians leave behind their labeled handicaps of predisposed limitations and other public prejudices to put forth their best effort on the line.

In the Olympics, athletes tend to bring their limitations to the forefront when not living up to their own hype.

One swimmer, 10 year-old Hayes, was disqualified in the 25 yard breaststroke event. She changed strokes after falling behind two 18 year-old competitors. Hayes was on the verge of crying because she thought her dad was angry with her for the DQ. She also didn’t want to swim in her next race. I told her the most important thing was to participate and have fun. She smiled in relief and went on to her next race and tried her best to win.

These participants and coaches get to experience the same feelings as “normal” athletes who engage in sports through schools, clubs, and other athletic associations. This includes the discipline of learning new skills, training, teamwork, and the actual emotions of a competitively measured contest. We all learn that the most important measurements of the event are not the time or distances or heights achieved but the number of smiles displayed, pumped fists in the air, hugs awarded, and sighs of relief that the special athlete achieved something they were unsure of at the start of the event. All participants are winners for their involvement.

Volunteer at a local special recreation event. Donate time, money, and most of all the love of sport for all to enjoy.

Why did you volunteer at a Special Olympics competition or fundraiser? What did you learn from athletes you didn’t expect to experience? Did this help you approach future races differently?

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Employee Motivation – The 5 Factors That Drive Performance

Employee motivation is a mystery for many managers. But, it does not have to be. Instead, understanding how motivation impacts employee performance, and understanding how to use motivation to improve performance can be reduced to five master keys. Organizations desiring to improve employee motivation need a system in place that consistently rewards employee achievements. I'm always surprised how few organizations have such a system.

However, not all employees respond to the same motivations. Each person has his or her own likes and dislikes, passions, interests and desires. The role of the successful manager is to learn how to identify what motivates each employee, and learn how to leverage those motives to simultaneously fulfill the goals of the organization, as well as the goals of each employee.

The five key employee motivation factors include: satisfaction, appreciation, recognition, inspiration and compensation.

1. Employee Motivation By Building Satisfaction

In their book "The Service Profit Chain," James Heskett, W. Earl Sasser, and Leonard Schlesinger make a compelling case that regardless your business, the only way to generate sustained profits is to build a work environment that attracts, focuses, and keeps talented employees. In other words, they have to be motivated to show up, get committed and perform at a level of excellence.

Employee motivation as it relates to employees satisfaction is vitally important. And, it goes way beyond just a "happier workforce." Why?

Because there is an undeniable link between satisfied, motivated employees, and satisfied customers. In other words, focus on creating satisfied employees, focus on employee motivation, and those motivated, satisfied employees will take care of your customers.

2. Employee Motivation Through Genuine Appreciation

At times, managers unknowingly sabotage employee motivation by failing to recognize the positive behaviors and achievements of their employees. As a result, employees don't know whether or not they are doing a good job.

I recently had an employee of an organization tell me, "The only time we ever hear anything from management is when we do something wrong!"

Fortunately, savvy managers can improve employee motivation by rewarding employees with personal attention. This can include a pat on the back, a hand-written note, or a quick comment in the hall.

When showing appreciation, be specific. Instead of just saying, "We really are grateful for the good job you do around here," the approach might be, "I really appreciate how you handled the Franklin Industries account last week when we had to get their rush order out late Friday afternoon Your effort really made a difference. "

By being specific, the employer comes across as much more sincere, and the employee realizes their actions are truly being watched. And, a highly level of employee motivation is the natural result.

3. Employee Motivation Through Recognition

Many people will do for recognition what they will not do for money. And, this is the manager's secret weapon for employee motivation. Some people are motivated by the opportunity to get their name on the wall, receive a trophy at an annual banquet, or see their name in the company newsletter. It gives them an "emotional payoff" for their actions.

Look for ways to increase employee motivation by recognizing excellence in the workplace. Ring a bell every time an individual or team hits the production target. Put up posters with the photographs of team members who have had the most days without accidents. Give out awards for attendance records. Just do something. It is so inexpensive, yet highly effective in your efforts of employee motivation.

4. Employee Motivation Through Inspiration

Inspiration comes from leadership. This form of employee motivation includes the company's mission, purpose and goals. People want to be part of an organization that is going somewhere, that stands for something, and that provides a meaningful service to the marketplace.

If you want to lead an inspired, mission-guided organization, follow these steps and watch employee motivation improve dramatically.

Have a clear mission – in other words, know where you are going.
Be excited and passionate about your mission. After all, if you don't get excited, they won't either.

Be able to communicate the mission, it's value to the marketplace. In other words, why it's worthwhile.

Make sure everyone in the organization understands and can communicate the mission.

Be sure employees understand how they fit into the process of fulfilling the organization's mission.

Make the connection between the mission and the individual values ​​and goals of your employees.

Keep your mission in front of everyone in the organization.

5. Employee Motivation Through Compensation

Some employees are motivated by money. In fact, most are motivated by money; at least for their basic needs. Employee motivation through compensation can come in the form of raises, performance bonuses, commissions, profit sharing, or any number of "extra benefits" like, automobiles, vacations, or other tangible items purchased and used as rewards.

I noticed an interesting program in a hotel where I recently stayed. They have a sophisticated system for rewarding employees based on customer feedback. Throughout the hotel, they have placed customer feedback forms and boxes for depositing the forms. When customers comment on the performance of a hotel employee, the employee accumulates points that can be used to purchase rewards like trips, gifts, and other incentives.

Taking Action On Employee Motivation

Whatever the chosen method, it is important to have a system in place that builds employee motivation. Not every person is motivated by the same factor, or combination of factors. Offering all five – satisfaction, appreciation, recognition, inspiration and compensation insures that the organization has something to contribute to the motivation of each employee.

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5 Tips to Encourage Self-Motivation in Your Little One

Do you find your little one less enthusiastic about playing with her friends? Does she seem aloof to you about everything else? Do you find that she is deteriorating in her studies as well? If you nodded in affirmation, then there are high chances that your little one lacks self-motivation.

Self-motivation is the key that leaves a great impression on how your little one is pacing in her daily life. From performing well in the curriculum to building some good habits, a self-motivated child can do wonders with her life. Motivation comes naturally until the age of seven, but up till reaching this age group a kid is observing her surroundings and always learning something new. However, after the age of seven, she must be able to motivate herself.

Although self-motivation is an inside process and varies from kid to kid, as a parent, you can always motivate and push your child to nurture her ability to do better and better. Here’s how you can do that:

1. Stay Positive

Even if she is failing at something, always dwell on the efforts she is putting in rather than nagging about the things she is not good at. If there is a problem, try to be compassionate and come up with a solution. You will soon see this positive outlook and behavior being reflected in your little princess.

2. Appreciate Efforts

Rather than just saying ‘good job’ for everything, take some time to rethink how you want to appreciate all the good things that she is doing. For example, if she shares her toys with her friends, you can acknowledge her good behavior by complementing, “Your friend must have enjoyed and felt immensely good when you shared your toys with her”. This will motivate your charming daughter to always behave well and do good in other aspects of her life.

3. Tackle Failures

Tell your little bundle of joy that it is okay to lose sometimes. What is important is the attempt and what she learns from failing at it in the first go. This trait of gracefully accepting the defeat and moving on from setbacks will prove immensely beneficial later in her life.

4. Adopt Learning Style

When a certain subject is hard to learn for your kid, then you can encourage the learning through fostering her interests. Suppose if she likes baking, you can teach her the measuring concepts by teaching her how to measure the ingredients. This will teach her about size, volume, and density without even making it appear like a burdensome math lesson.

5. Build Self-Esteem

When she believes in herself, any difficult mountain can be moved with ease. Building a positive self-esteem will open the ways towards building self-esteem. Help your little one to build self-esteem and believe in herself, then there won’t be even a single thing that she would think of as unattainable. You can always try to look out what she enjoys doing the most and how she interprets the right from the wrong.

Final Word

Like any other parent in the world, you would also want your little one to be successful in school and later in her life as an adult. Set your little one on the path of success by inculcating self-motivation. Always encourage your pretty princess to go beyond the boundaries and achieve big. It is a vital skill that is needed for whatever she chooses to do in her life!

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Applause – A Motivation

“A little sound of applause makes a magical difference then a thousand rupee note”.

Motivation is a kind positive push, to a person to proceed further to achieve his wants and desire. In early 80’s and 90’s the term Motivation was not considered on higher terms neither it was used broadly. But as the time changed, people felt and saw the magic of motivation. It became a term which started being highly used in professional as well as personal lives. Motivation is one of those terms which has vast explanation and small meaning. It can be widely explore, reviewed and collected.

Motivation – in a broader sense

Motivation has to be started from the gate of an organisation, from the day one of the new entrant till his/her last day of the service. Motivation can be done at any stage of your service and employment. It does not have any connection to your designation. It is also viewed in two broad manners: self motivation and praise motivation. Self motivation is a motivation in which an employee get aspire from the surrounding and initiatives made or done in a nearby environment. It is one of the best ways to aspire the employee. As if an employee look that his fellow colleague is getting some extra attention or been rewarded in terms of Applause, appreciation letter or money etc by management and others, he automatically feels motivated to work in the same direction in which he could earn more credibility as others are gaining.

Motivation can be done in endless number of ways, but one should always remember that it should be done in right way and in right manner. Oftenly employees get motivated towards the wrong things,

for e.g. as if one employee is taking a leave without information which usually happens and management never bothers to take any action or does not acts on a such behavior, another employee gets motivated to do the same.

Mode of Motivation

As per stated above, motivation can be done by any mode. Like: –

Dreams are motivation – dreams are kind of motivation which can be seen unlimited by any one.

Praise is a motivation – simple words from your boss like VERY GOOD or GREAT WORK is a way of high effective motivation.

Shopping is a motivation – people are motivated to buy new thing while doing shopping.

Love – Love is a motivation which has the greatest impact to achieve the desires for your loved ones.

Success – one gets motivated to achieve the success so he/she makes his /her success a motivation.



Movies – entertainment



Etc are many few of the ways of motivation.

Motivation – an adoption and a Satisfaction

Today, motivation is also a part of self appraisal, self esteem and behavioral posture.

Motivation = behavioral posture

Motivation = Self esteem

Motivation = Self appraisal

So many times we see and ask that why a human or an animal is engaged in certain or specific set of action (Criminals, actors, business, service etc)?

What is there motivation behind that action? Let me explain the answer.

Every human being has there own specific brain set. They like to indulge in what they believe and what they want to believe in. It is generally and commonly viewed that Doctor’s son will be a doctor; Lawyer’s son will be a lawyer. These are the norms which generally others think for others. As for example a son/daughter of a doctor will get the environment of his/her home different from a lawyers home. Parents want that there children should adopt the same profession in which they are involved in. So, the motivation from the environment and surrounding motivates a child to behave, adopt and act accordingly.

Motivation is also major part of self esteem. Self esteem makes you more confident and straight in your communication and thinking. People want to be motivated in order to increase their moral and want to be confident as others are. To boast up they motivate themselves to be confident to increase their self esteem. Same goes with self appraisal.

Self appraisal is a concerned sister of self esteem and again motivation is one of the big ways to achieve the sense of self appraisal.

For e.g. analysis of choosing what u want to wear?

I would like to present an example that will illustrate the utility of the type of motivational analysis illustrated in the article. Most of us enjoy dressing up even without any special occasion. What are favorite dresses? Colors – black, blue, orange etc? Jeans or trousers? Shirts or T-shirts? Long or minimal skirt? etc. When we dress up according to our own desire, we develop a sense of looking beautiful or handsome, which makes us more confident or increases are self esteem which lands us on the seventh level of sky. The feeling of getting noticed by the known and unknowns, getting compliments, being comfortable makes one flawing in the sky. The feeling of getting noticed by others motivates us to do the same again and again as it starts giving us immense pleasure and satisfaction which in turns boasts our confidence and increases our self esteem. Also a motivated, different and positive behavior can be seen in a satisfied person

Motivation – a sense of achievement.

So how can one create a better environment for himself and his employees? What can he do differently to motivate his employees? One very good answer is APPLAUSE. As stated above, applause is one of the best ways to motivate any human being especially if it is done in front of others/fellow colleagues/known ones. As if an employee performs well and his employer just visit his work desk with other high authority, surprisingly and applaud in there, front of others, team members, imagine……, the kind of satisfaction and credibility an employee earns. Such motivation is a push to an employee to achieve/gain his goals and targets towards his organization which is one of the best ways amongst other means of motivation. It is a human nature and it has been proven that human being does not earn for himself, he earns to show others. It is a nature of human being, that he is always hungry of praise; they are never satisfied to what they get, they always want more and more. So, by the feeling of being recognized amongst others eyes is a best way to attain credibility and for that Applause sprinkles the magic.


Before signing off once again I will say that motivation cannot be done only through rewarding an employee by not only giving money but a small sound of applause is more powerful.

To support my article I would like to include few quotations: –

o Watch a sunrise.

o People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that is why we recommend it daily.

o Desire creates the power.

o The ones who want to achieve and win championships motivate themselves.

o Inspirations never go in for long engagements; they demand immediate marriage to action.

With love and affection,

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Personal Development & Success – "Creating the Motivation You Need"

Have you ever heard someone say something like, "I haven't felt motivated lately," or, "I'll do it as soon as I feel motivated enough?" I know that I have and, truth be known, am guilty of using these and similar phrases myself. You see, I, like many others, used to believe that action only happens through motivation. That, I must wait around for the so-called "feeling to move me" before I will get anything accomplished.

Well, I was wrong. And I believe that I was wrong for two reasons. First is that I was unable to see the 'big picture' – the reason that the 'thing' had to be done in the first place and how that 'thing' relates to other things that I wanted to accomplish, do, enjoy, etc .

And secondly because, quite frankly, I just didn't know how I operated. Oh sure, I liked to believe that I was in control of myself, but why then was I not able to motivate myself if I did indeed have so much control?

Motivation is really like creativity, or any other drive or impulse. We can wait around for it to magically appear, which it often does and often at the most inopportune times (remember all the really great ideas you've had while driving down the road without a notebook or tape recorder to capture it? Or how about the times we're motivated to do something cool that our friends or family would really like but everyone else's schedule doesn't fit our 'moment of brilliance.' Remember?

No, the secret with motivation is to realize that it cannot be relied on to create action. It does, but in no predictable, usable way. Without the unpredictable variable such as luck, coincidence and the like, to rely on an emotional impulse such as motivation to drive us forward is like waiting for food to appear in your cupboards without going to the store to buy it.

How then do we create motivation? The answer, ironically, is in the question itself. How do we create. . .?

To create anything, we take action – we have to 'do' something. And actions themselves come in three forms – as thoughts – as speech – and, of course, as physical deeds. It is here that we find the necessary ingredients for 'creating' the motivation we need.

How? Let's take a look at the grocery scenario and ask another question: "What motivates us to go shopping for groceries in the first place?

Most people would answer, "I don't have any food in the house." But, a Ninja looking at the bigger picture would ask another question focused on the "why." Why don't I have groceries in the house? Because I or someone else ate them. Actions preceding the need for motivation is precisely what 'causes' the motivation to occur. Once we understand this little secret, we are then free to use the same formula to do it again and again.

Groceries are one thing, you say but, what about my goals. After all, groceries are a necessity, my goals are just dreams, wants, and wishes.

Here-in lies the answer to my first problem. Remember?

Right. The inability to 'see' (a mental action) how my goal was a necessary part of living the life I wanted to live. Because, once I was able to see how vital it was that I attain my goal – how I could not accomplish other things I wanted to do, I was then endowed with all the motivation I could handle to do what needed to be done.

So, it is true that motivation leads to action, but only, and I mean only, after it is caused into being by a previous action. There must be something in place, a thought or dream, a promise (verbal action), or something that must be handled (like an assailant's attack) that requires action NOW, before motivation will be the compelling drive for us to move.

Can you imagine using the same excuse for not achieving the goal you want when confronted by an attacker? I really don't think that "I'm not motivated to do anything right now," is going to make him or her go away – do you?

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Self-Motivation As a Tonic for Success

There is a saying that it is easy to take a horse to the river. But what is not easy is to force it to drink water there. This saying is also true when it comes to achievement of success. It is one thing to try to motivate somebody to achieve success in life. But your effort at inspiring the person may not achieve results until the person him- or herself is self-motivated. This is because one’s effort will be fruitless if in one’s absence, the person does not have the determination to be successful.

There are two parts to self-motivation or internal motivation, that is, mental and physical. In the mental stage, you conceive in your mind where you want to go; while in the physical state, you take action to get to where you aspire to be.


Self-motivation, which consists of thought and action, is a key to success. This is because the willingness to act on your ideas is at least as important as the ideas themselves. Anybody that wants to be successful in life needs to be a self-starter; give his or her success aspiration all he or she has; and dare him- or herself to act now.

The world is full of opportunities beckoning at you every second, minute and day. But the key to making the most of those opportunities is action. This implies that one needs to dream his or her dreams, but motivate him- or herself to put plans into motion.

Fixed-personality myth

The choice one makes for his or her thinking either motivates him or her or not. Although clear visualisation of a goal is a good first step, a joyfully-motivated life demands more. To live the life one wants to live, action is required. In the words of William Shakespeare, “Action is eloquence.”

Steve Chandler, a sales trainer as well as a keynote and convention speaker submits that it is a myth to say each of us has a fixed personality. Chandler stresses that this is self-limiting and denies us our power of continuous creation. In our ongoing creation of whom we are, nothing has a greater impact on that process than the choice we make between optimism and pessimism. There are no optimism or pessimism personalities; there are only single, individual choices for optimistic or pessimistic thoughts.

First step

To be able to motivate oneself to success through self-motivation, one must be able to identify core desires. Everybody has what it takes to achieve greatest desires, but to find the motivation and direction one’s life needs, one must identify his or her core desires. That is, things one is very passionate about. Whether you want to earn more money, establish cordial relationships or boost your self-confidence, you must first identify your core desires, that is, things that drive you from within.


Apart from identifying your core desires, you also need to have ideas to be able to succeed. If you have ideas, you have the main asset you need, and the sky is beginning of your success that can be achieved through self-motivation.

Dr. Walter Doyle Staples, one of America’s most celebrated authorities on human-potential issues says all accomplishments, whether big or small, begin with an idea. Although ideas in general are not in short supply, creative and innovative ideas are, and so are people who can turn them into reality. You should prepare for success and your chance will definitely come.


Having got the necessary ideas, another thing to do to be able to accomplish success through self-motivation is to set goals and plan. Before any adventure, take time to plan. Design your own plan of attack. Always observe a successful person, no sooner does he or she achieve his or her goal than he or she will set newer and higher goals in order to further extend his or her success and happiness.

This does not mean that successful people have no disappointments. But they are successful because they know how to overcome challenges. When formulating your personal goals, you should endeavour to keep this simple PROBE rule in mind. That is, make the goals “Practical”; “Reasonable”; “Obtainable”; “Big” and “Exciting”.


In addition to your goal-setting, you need to have a vision. Without a vision, one does not know where he or she is going and certainly cannot develop a strategy to get there. The vision one establishes, creates the future he or she will have. Establishing your vision requires that you integrate the person you are and the opportunity you have chosen to pursue to a cohesive whole.

Energy and good health habits

Being energetic and cultivation of good health habits are another area worthy of consideration when talking about achievements through self-motivation.

George Shinn, a renowned motivational writer and speaker says, “You need energy for successful motivation. Energy is like the propellant that goes into a satellite to provide thrust (action), like the gasoline that powers our cars. But the amount of energy an individual has to expend is…measured by the condition of the human body and mind.” Health is a person’s physical and mental state.


You need to devote your very substantial energies as fully as possible to the venture you are engaging yourself in, throw yourself into the work and spend long hours at it to be able to succeed. Additionally, you need to make your appearance an asset; develop a magnetic personality; build successful relationships; overcome worry, doubt, and fear; master your tensions and learn to relax; overcome failure; learn from your mistakes; and solve your problems.


Paradoxically, the readiness to visualise one’s last hours is a self-motivation tonic when we are talking about achievement of success. As Chandler puts it, “Pretending you aren’t going to die is detrimental to your enjoyment of life… Confronting our own death doesn’t have to wait until we run out of life. In fact, being able to vividly image our last hours on our deathbed creates a paradoxical sensation: the feeling of being born all over again – the first step to fearless self-motivation.”

Words of advice

What is the essence of coming to this world without making indelible impression or become a great achiever through self-motivation? You need to deploy all efforts to be able to succeed and your best bet is to (re)activate your internal-motivation mechanisms.

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Importance of Motivation

The importance of motivation is important for most people in everyday situations. Universities and organizations and schools always make sure that their students and employees are always motivated to carry out their work to the best of their ability. However, due to factors beyond their control more and more people are finding it hard to motivate themselves due to lots of factors. This article will explore the importance of motivation and how it as affected thousands and thousands of individuals.

One of the main importances of motivation is to increase morale of an individual. For example, if a sports team is constantly losing their matches then this will have a negative effect on the morale of the whole team as no one likes to lose. Furthermore, this loss can affect the behavior of the individual. Therefore, on this basis the manager who coaches the team is responsible for motivating his players to help them stay focused on future matches. The manager is responsible for helping to motivate the players and help develop their confidence. On this basis, motivation is important because it can help a person forget about the past and move on.

Another importance of motivation is when a person might be going through personal domestic problems and therefore, it is the responsibility of the employer to ensure the person is motivated to carry out their job without taking their problems to the workplace. Moreover, the employer will have to need to ensure that they motivate the individual in many ways to make sure the person is not emotionally affected by their problems. Sometimes some people can find it hard to adjust to their job when they have domestic personal problems and therefore, on that basis it is important that an individual is motivated and focused to carry out their tasks.

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Weight Loss – Finding Your Trigger To Boost Your Motivation to Lose Weight

If you are like many people, you may find you struggle to maintain optimal motivation levels from time to time. You go about your program and sometimes, you are sufficiently motivated and ready to work as hard as possible. Other times, the opposite occurs. You cannot get yourself to do what you know you need to. What gives? When this takes place, it is essential to identify your triggers.

Let us look further at this concept so you can find out how to use it and have sky-high motivation at all times.

What Are Triggers? Triggers are essentially anything that is going to make you strive to work as hard as possible to see a result.

For instance, it is the reason why you are looking to lose weight. Why you are hitting the gym each day. Why you are saying no to pizza when it is offered.

Your triggers dictate your ability to stick with your program and generally speaking, the stronger the trigger, the easier time you will have to maintain your motivation to continue.

Finding these strong triggers is essential for your success.

Finding Your Triggers. How do you go about finding your triggers? First, you must dig deep…

  1. Now, at the surface level, you may think the primary reason you want to lose weight is to look better. Moreover, that is great, but it is at a surface level. Go further.
  2. Why do you want to look better? What will looking better get you? Whom do you want to look better for? What happens if you don’t look better?

Try answering these questions along with any others you may come up with that will help you better understand your triggers.

You may find you want to look better to regain the self-confidence you lost as a teen when you started putting on the weight and by doing so, you may feel like you will approach life and your job differently, and if you do, it may mean career advancement.

Now you have a definite trigger. When you think of that piece of cake, think of this instead. If you want to be successful and reach your goal, your trigger will help you to say no to the slice of cake.

Using This Wisely. How can you use this wisely? What you need to know here is this exercise is not designed to make you feel bad about yourself. Instead, it is intended to help uncover the reason why you are working so hard towards your goal.

If you have not taken the time to uncover your trigger or triggers, that is your first mistake and what will cost you down the line. Your motivation will fail, and you will be back to square one.

Take some time and find your trigger. It is one of the best steps you can take to help achieve maximum success.

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Building Motivation With the Snowball Effect

“What can you do when you’re lodged in a negative stream of events, and the mountain of problems saps all of your motivation to fix things?”

I got this question from a friend of mine who’s had a series of bad luck, compounded by his own negative emotional reaction to the situation.

If you’re feeling like you need to get out of a tight spot, but you lack the fighting spirit to “take arms against a sea of troubles” ??

Let me explain THE SNOWBALL EFFECT :

The first thing to understand about trends in life, negative or positive, is that they usually work like snowballs. A first negative or positive event, like a few isolated snowflakes, drifts down the side of the mountain with almost no effect. But – let another few and another few snowflakes get stuck together – and you get a snowball rolling down a hillside.

Let this ball collect snow and, bam!, you end up with an avalanche.

No one can stand alone and try to stop an avalanche with brute force. Once a strong string of negative events has taken over, you can try to hold back the tide with outstretched arms, but it won’t work.

So what to do?

Well, positive things work with the snowball effect too. Action breeds action.

What you need to do is to take positive action. Start with little things. Do the dishes. Tidy. Buy a rose for your wife/husband. Pick any small thing that will have an immediate positive effect on your life or your environment. The deed should be executable in less than 30 minutes and MUST have positive results immediately.

Once you’ve done this, pick the next thing. Perhaps something a bit bigger. Don’t tackle anything intimidating or enormous. Just get a good, positive trend rolling.

This is how to build motivation: by establishing a causal link between the effort you make and a quick, predictable and desirable outcome.

By getting a ball of positivity rolling, you’ll feel more empowered to, one by one, take on the more challenging issues in your life.


“Even the highest mountain is climbed in a series of steps.”

When trying to climb mount Everest, the best way to get discouraged is to stare at the top.

Big problems sometimes kill motivation just because of their size. If you look at a big issue in your life – like a mountain of debt – the magnitude of the problem can sap your will to take on the challenge.

So, the key to keeping your motivation in tact is to break the challenge into smaller steps. These milestones allow you not only to see progress, but also to see exactly what you have to do at each stage. While you might not see your way clear to making it up the whole mountain in one go, getting to the next plateau might seem manageable.

Your goal, then, is to break your problems down into manageable steps. Once you’ve got smaller things you can easily succeed at, you’ll not only see progress, but you’ll feel less demotivated by the sheer size of a problem.

Remember : the best way not to climb the mountain is to spend time staring at the top, so don’t do it! Don’t be a tourist admiring your own problems. Act. Action begets action.

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